The Trans Advice Column
Questions for, by, and about trans and gender diverse people.
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Am I rushing into being trans?
How do I come out at work?
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How do I come out as nonbinary to my straight partner?
How do I cope in a relationship where I'm not out as trans?
My boyfriend is gay, but I'm not really a man or masc at all -- what should I do?
How do I not get burnt out by misgendering and deadnaming over the holiday?
How can I feel more comfortable with change?
Nobody asked: How to learn about trans and gender diverse people
Nobody asked: Misgendering and mispronouning
How can I learn someone's pronouns?
How should I come out to my friend when I'm afraid he'll take it badly?
What is the difference between nonbinary and transgender?
How do you respond when someone comes out to you?
PSA: Stop saying "opposite sex"
I've started questioning my gender. What should I do now?
How can I ask questions and make mistakes without being labelled as transphobic?
Should I write historical fiction about people I think were trans?
PSA: current language
Am I in denial and too scared to come out to myself?
How do I tell my best friend that I'm not cisgender?
How can I navigate gendered sibling dynamics as someone outside the binary?
How can I make gendered clothing feel more androgynous?
What do I do about someone who will probably misgender a guest?
How can I support trans and gender diverse relatives at family gatherings?
How do you hold onto hope that things will get better?
Would it be useful for me to be out at the library I work at?
Is late-onset dysphoria a thing?
Was inviting my cis co-worker to a pride party a mistake?
How do I apologize for getting pronouns wrong?
Does the idea of "passing" perpetuate the gender binary?
Should cis folks use gender neutral pronouns?
Is it okay that I'm not out as trans?
Is it actually helpful for cis people to share their pronouns?
How do I come out after I know my gender?
Does enjoying wearing makeup mean I'm not really trans masc?
How do I respond to "I identify as a truck" or "my pronoun is computer"?
What is some advice for teens who are exploring gender?
Can I use different pronouns even if I'm not trans?
How do I convince someone that saying "preferred pronouns" isn't right?
How do I handle microaggressions in the workplace?
How trans do I have to be in order to come out and make changes?
Should sharing pronouns be mandatory?
How do I best support my new coworker?
Nobody asked: Gathering personal information
How much dysphoria is normal?
How do I correct my new coworkers when they misgender me?
Am I moving "too fast" on my gender journey?
How do I support my friend after their top surgery?
What are some non-gendered family relationship terms?
Why might an AFAB woman identify as trans?
Is the "fad" of kids changing their pronouns harmful?
Is there a respectful way to address people that isn't gendered?
How do I talk about someone when I don't know who they're out to?
Can I put pronouns on my resume?
What is the Trans Advice Column?