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How do I cope in a relationship where I'm not out as trans?

Q: I was wondering if you had any advice for how to cope in a relationship where you are not out as trans yet to them. In my current...

My boyfriend is gay, but I'm not always really a man or masc at all -- what should I do?

Q: sorry if this is kind of long. so for the last few years ive identified as masc agender & gay, and i was very comfortable with that....

How do I not get burnt out by misgendering and deadnaming over the holiday?

Q: This is my first Christmas back with my family since I changed my name and pronouns. How do I not get burnt out from correcting people...

How should I come out to my friend when I'm afraid he'll take it badly?

Q: I want to come out as a trans guy to my best friend. He's a cis guy and most definitely what people would call a Chad. I know how this...

How do I tell my best friend that I'm not cisgender?

Q: I'm a trans man and I've had an online friend that I've known for over a year now. When we first met, I thought she would assume that...

How can I make gendered clothing feel more androgynous?

Q: Hi! About six months ago I figured out that I am genderfluid. I have come out to a couple of my friends but not my parents. My cousin...

What do I do about someone who will probably misgender a guest?

Q: my mother has a serious problem with misgendering. it's not malicious and she gets really offended that her character is being...

How can I support trans and gender diverse relatives at family gatherings?

(Note: This is a version of a question that a relative asked me recently before a family event, and I'm turning it into a blog post...

How do you hold onto hope that things will get better?

Q: I am fortunate enough to live in a place where I can at least theoretically be out professionally and have been able to tell my...

Was inviting my cis co-worker to a pride party a mistake?

Q: Help! I work with a group of people who arrived in the last year from all over the US and internationally. One of them posted on our...

How do I talk about someone when I don't know who they're out to?

Question: My friend came out to me and told me what pronouns to use for them in future, but I don't know if they're out to other people...