How do I come out after I know my gender?
Q: I've been considering my gender identity for two years. I have no idea where to go. I don't know how to tell people, or how to take...
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- Apr 3, 2022
- 8 min
Does enjoying wearing makeup mean I'm not really trans masc?
Q: hi! so i've identified as trans masc - non-binary for a while now. i previously identified as genderfluid but found the label to be...
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- Mar 27, 2022
- 5 min
How do I respond to "I identify as a truck" or "my pronoun is computer"?
Question: Sometimes, the people doing this are jerks, but what about the people (usually cis and otherwise privileged folks) who want to...
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- Mar 21, 2022
- 5 min
What is some advice for teens who are exploring gender?
Q: What advice do you have for a teen who feels lost and distressed in their journey to figure out their gender? K: I'm going to preface...
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- Mar 6, 2022
- 5 min
Can I use different pronouns even if I'm not trans?
Q: I'm a male who is more comfortable looking/behaving femininely than most males but I doubt anybody thinks I identify as anything but...
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- Feb 20, 2022
- 2 min
How do I convince someone that saying "preferred pronouns" isn't right?
Question: I'm trying to change a "preferred pronoun" field/label to say just "pronouns". Can you help me formulate an argument or provide...
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- Feb 17, 2022
- 6 min
How do I handle microaggressions in the workplace?
Question: Do you have any advice on how to handle microaggressions in the workplace? How much is too much? I feel like I'm overreacting...
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- Feb 13, 2022
- 5 min
How trans do I have to be in order to come out and make changes?
Question: Hi, so I've come out to coworkers and friends as nonbinary almost two years ago. Lately I'm starting to think I'm actually...
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- Feb 12, 2022
- 4 min
Should sharing pronouns be mandatory?
Q: Would you address the practice of mandatory pronoun sharing? This is an important discussion worth having on here as there's a lot of...
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- Feb 3, 2022
- 7 min
How do I best support my new coworker?
Question: My workplace is about to add a new staff person who uses they/them pronouns. I believe my coworkers are a generally...
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- Feb 1, 2022
- 5 min
Nobody Asked: Gathering personal information
Occasionally we do a post on a topic that hasn't been submitted as a question but that we want to cover anyway. Perhaps it's an issue...
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- Jan 27, 2022
- 1 min
How much dysphoria is normal?
Question: How much dysphoria is normal? I have a lot of dysphoria about my body and when I'm misgendered it sticks with me for a long...
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- Jan 26, 2022
- 5 min
How do I correct my new coworkers when they misgender me?
Question: I just started a new job, my first where I've ever been out at work. All of my coworkers are great about using my name, but at...
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- Jan 24, 2022
- 8 min
Am I moving "too fast" on my gender journey?
Note: When someone sends us a question like the one below, we check in with them before answering to make sure that they're comfortable...
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- Jan 20, 2022
- 4 min
How do I support my friend after their top surgery?
Question: My friend is having top surgery (of the removal variety) and I am going to be the friend who is staying with them for the first...
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- Jan 17, 2022
- 2 min
What are some non-gendered family relationship terms?
Question: The terms 'niece' / 'nephew' and 'aunt / 'uncle' describe in a gendered way the relationship between people. Are there a...
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- Jan 14, 2022
- 3 min
Why might an AFAB woman identify as trans?
Question: I recently read a comment on a forum by someone who says she is a trans woman even though she was AFAB. She was frustrated that...
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- Jan 9, 2022
- 6 min
Is the "fad" of kids changing their pronouns harmful?
Question: A surprising number of teens at my kid’s school are changing their pronouns. Part of me thinks that’s really awesome. Their...
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- Jan 6, 2022
- 6 min
Is there a respectful way to address people that isn't gendered?
Question: I work with young adults in an organization where all teachers and staff are addressed with “Mr.” or “Ms.” in front of their...
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- Jan 2, 2022
- 2 min
How do I talk about someone when I don't know who they're out to?
Question: My friend came out to me and told me what pronouns to use for them in future, but I don't know if they're out to other people...
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