What do I do about someone who will probably misgender a guest?
Q: my mother has a serious problem with misgendering. it's not malicious and she gets really offended that her character is being...
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- Jun 29, 2022
- 4 min
How can I support trans and gender diverse relatives at family gatherings?
(Note: This is a version of a question that a relative asked me recently before a family event, and I'm turning it into a blog post...
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- Jun 19, 2022
- 6 min
How do you hold onto hope that things will get better?
Q: I am fortunate enough to live in a place where I can at least theoretically be out professionally and have been able to tell my...
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- Jun 13, 2022
- 6 min
Would it be useful for me to be out at the library I work at?
Q: Hi! So, I'm a librarian in training. I'm also non-binary, trans masc, although the term I mostly use to describe myself is just queer....
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- Jun 6, 2022
- 2 min
Is late-onset dysphoria a thing?
Q: So I can't remember any dysphoria growing up, even as I started to realize I fell somewhere outside the binary. And that was years ago...
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- Jun 4, 2022
- 4 min
Was inviting my cis co-worker to a pride party a mistake?
Q: Help! I work with a group of people who arrived in the last year from all over the US and internationally. One of them posted on our...
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- May 20, 2022
- 4 min
How do I apologize for getting pronouns wrong?
Q: Sometimes I catch myself mentally using the wrong pronoun for someone and I'm afraid it will slip out of my mouth/fingers if I'm...
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- May 17, 2022
- 4 min
Does the idea of "passing" perpetuate the gender binary?
Q: Does the idea of “passing” narrow the view of gender identity and expression and further force it into a limiting binary? K: The short...
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- May 10, 2022
- 5 min
Should cis folks use gender neutral pronouns?
Q: Hi, I am cis and have been tempted to use gender neutral pronouns because I'm a little cantankerous about whether my gender is...
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- Apr 29, 2022
- 7 min
Is it okay that I'm not out as trans?
Q: When I was 12 years old I came out as bisexual and everything went fine. My parents aren't the most progressive people in the world...
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- Apr 12, 2022
- 7 min
Is it actually helpful for cis people to share their pronouns?
Q: Hi! Thank you so much for running this blog, I've learned a lot from your posts. I have a question about the normalization of pronoun...
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- Apr 10, 2022
- 7 min
How do I come out after I know my gender?
Q: I've been considering my gender identity for two years. I have no idea where to go. I don't know how to tell people, or how to take...
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- Apr 3, 2022
- 8 min
Does enjoying wearing makeup mean I'm not really trans masc?
Q: hi! so i've identified as trans masc - non-binary for a while now. i previously identified as genderfluid but found the label to be...
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- Mar 27, 2022
- 5 min
How do I respond to "I identify as a truck" or "my pronoun is computer"?
Question: Sometimes, the people doing this are jerks, but what about the people (usually cis and otherwise privileged folks) who want to...
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- Mar 21, 2022
- 5 min
What is some advice for teens who are exploring gender?
Q: What advice do you have for a teen who feels lost and distressed in their journey to figure out their gender? K: I'm going to preface...
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- Mar 6, 2022
- 5 min
Can I use different pronouns even if I'm not trans?
Q: I'm a male who is more comfortable looking/behaving femininely than most males but I doubt anybody thinks I identify as anything but...
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- Feb 20, 2022
- 2 min
How do I convince someone that saying "preferred pronouns" isn't right?
Question: I'm trying to change a "preferred pronoun" field/label to say just "pronouns". Can you help me formulate an argument or provide...
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- Feb 17, 2022
- 6 min
How do I handle microaggressions in the workplace?
Question: Do you have any advice on how to handle microaggressions in the workplace? How much is too much? I feel like I'm overreacting...
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- Feb 13, 2022
- 5 min
How trans do I have to be in order to come out and make changes?
Question: Hi, so I've come out to coworkers and friends as nonbinary almost two years ago. Lately I'm starting to think I'm actually...
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- Feb 12, 2022
- 4 min
Should sharing pronouns be mandatory?
Q: Would you address the practice of mandatory pronoun sharing? This is an important discussion worth having on here as there's a lot of...
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