How do I cope in a relationship where I'm not out as trans?
Q: I was wondering if you had any advice for how to cope in a relationship where you are not out as trans yet to them. In my current...
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- Jan 5
- 5 min
My boyfriend is gay, but I'm not always really a man or masc at all -- what should I do?
Q: sorry if this is kind of long. so for the last few years ive identified as masc agender & gay, and i was very comfortable with that....
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- Dec 19, 2022
- 3 min
How do I not get burnt out by misgendering and deadnaming over the holiday?
Q: This is my first Christmas back with my family since I changed my name and pronouns. How do I not get burnt out from correcting people...
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- Nov 23, 2022
- 6 min
How can I feel more comfortable with change?
Q: Every time I allow myself to identify as a trans man I get so scared and anxious of the change I so desperately want that I end up...
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- Nov 15, 2022
- 5 min
Nobody asked: How to learn about trans and gender diverse people
We wrote recently about decentering yourself when learning about trans and gender diverse people. But how do you actually go about...
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- Oct 20, 2022
- 2 min
Nobody Asked: Misgendering and mispronouning
It's very common to refer to using the wrong pronouns as misgendering, but this term isn't quite accurate. Misgendering refers to...
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- Oct 5, 2022
- 2 min
How can I learn someone's pronouns?
Q: I want to make sure I'm not misgendering people, but sometimes I don't know how to find out what pronouns a person uses if they...
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- Sep 20, 2022
- 3 min
How should I come out to my friend when I'm afraid he'll take it badly?
Q: I want to come out as a trans guy to my best friend. He's a cis guy and most definitely what people would call a Chad. I know how this...
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- Sep 9, 2022
- 3 min
What is the difference between nonbinary and transgender?
Q: Are nonbinary and transgender different things? How should these terms be used? K: The short answer is that nonbinary (sometimes...
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- Sep 8, 2022
- 3 min
How do you respond when someone comes out to you?
Q: Could you provide advice for how to react when someone comes out to you? What should you say at first? How to ask how to best support...
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- Aug 31, 2022
- 1 min
PSA: Stop saying "opposite sex"
It's dismayingly common to see the language "opposite sex" when someone really means "different gender." Neither sex nor gender are...
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- Aug 29, 2022
- 6 min
I've started questioning my gender. What should I do now?
Q: I started questioning my gender. I don't know which pronouns to use or even if I want to change my pronouns. I have no idea what I...
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- Aug 21, 2022
- 4 min
How can I ask questions and make mistakes without being labelled as transphobic?
Note: This is not a question that was submitted directly; instead, it is a version of a question that comes up frequently enough that it...
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- Aug 7, 2022
- 5 min
Should I write historical fiction about people I think were trans?
Q: I'm a cis writer, and I've been researching some historical figures who I think may have been trans (trans man and bigender,...
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- Jul 28, 2022
- 1 min
PSA: current language
Language around gender changes rapidly and there's often not a consistent way to keep up with it; terms that were fine ten years ago have...
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- Jul 26, 2022
- 1 min
PSA: he/she/they
I've seen this popping up lately and I hate it. Please don't use he/she/they for a generic pronoun! It's true that you shouldn't use...
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- Jul 23, 2022
- 7 min
Am I in denial and too scared to come out to myself?
Q: Hi! Ever since I was little I’ve always been more drawn towards things that are considered “masculine”, including different names that...
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- Jul 15, 2022
- 4 min
How do I tell my best friend that I'm not cisgender?
Q: I'm a trans man and I've had an online friend that I've known for over a year now. When we first met, I thought she would assume that...
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- Jul 11, 2022
- 3 min
How can I navigate gendered sibling dynamics as someone outside the binary?
Q: I know this can vary a lot per person, but I was curious on how to navigate the gendered dynamics and expectations as someone who is...
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- Jul 7, 2022
- 4 min
How can I make gendered clothing feel more androgynous?
Q: Hi! About six months ago I figured out that I am genderfluid. I have come out to a couple of my friends but not my parents. My cousin...
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