I've started questioning my gender. What should I do now?
Q: I started questioning my gender. I don't know which pronouns to use or even if I want to change my pronouns. I have no idea what I...
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- Aug 21, 2022
- 4 min
How can I ask questions and make mistakes without being labelled as transphobic?
Note: This is not a question that was submitted directly; instead, it is a version of a question that comes up frequently enough that it...
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- Aug 7, 2022
- 5 min
Should I write historical fiction about people I think were trans?
Q: I'm a cis writer, and I've been researching some historical figures who I think may have been trans (trans man and bigender,...
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- Jul 28, 2022
- 1 min
PSA: current language
Language around gender changes rapidly and there's often not a consistent way to keep up with it; terms that were fine ten years ago have...
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- Jul 26, 2022
- 1 min
PSA: he/she/they
I've seen this popping up lately and I hate it. Please don't use he/she/they for a generic pronoun! It's true that you shouldn't use...
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- Jul 23, 2022
- 7 min
Am I in denial and too scared to come out to myself?
Q: Hi! Ever since I was little I’ve always been more drawn towards things that are considered “masculine”, including different names that...
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- Jul 15, 2022
- 4 min
How do I tell my best friend that I'm not cisgender?
Q: I'm a trans man and I've had an online friend that I've known for over a year now. When we first met, I thought she would assume that...
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- Jul 11, 2022
- 3 min
How can I navigate gendered sibling dynamics as someone outside the binary?
Q: I know this can vary a lot per person, but I was curious on how to navigate the gendered dynamics and expectations as someone who is...
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- Jul 7, 2022
- 4 min
How can I make gendered clothing feel more androgynous?
Q: Hi! About six months ago I figured out that I am genderfluid. I have come out to a couple of my friends but not my parents. My cousin...
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- Jul 4, 2022
- 6 min
What do I do about someone who will probably misgender a guest?
Q: my mother has a serious problem with misgendering. it's not malicious and she gets really offended that her character is being...
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- Jun 29, 2022
- 4 min
How can I support trans and gender diverse relatives at family gatherings?
(Note: This is a version of a question that a relative asked me recently before a family event, and I'm turning it into a blog post...
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- Jun 19, 2022
- 6 min
How do you hold onto hope that things will get better?
Q: I am fortunate enough to live in a place where I can at least theoretically be out professionally and have been able to tell my...
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- Jun 13, 2022
- 6 min
Would it be useful for me to be out at the library I work at?
Q: Hi! So, I'm a librarian in training. I'm also non-binary, trans masc, although the term I mostly use to describe myself is just queer....
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- Jun 6, 2022
- 2 min
Is late-onset dysphoria a thing?
Q: So I can't remember any dysphoria growing up, even as I started to realize I fell somewhere outside the binary. And that was years ago...
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- Jun 4, 2022
- 4 min
Was inviting my cis co-worker to a pride party a mistake?
Q: Help! I work with a group of people who arrived in the last year from all over the US and internationally. One of them posted on our...
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- May 20, 2022
- 4 min
How do I apologize for getting pronouns wrong?
Q: Sometimes I catch myself mentally using the wrong pronoun for someone and I'm afraid it will slip out of my mouth/fingers if I'm...
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- May 17, 2022
- 4 min
Does the idea of "passing" perpetuate the gender binary?
Q: Does the idea of “passing” narrow the view of gender identity and expression and further force it into a limiting binary? K: The short...
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- May 10, 2022
- 5 min
Should cis folks use gender neutral pronouns?
Q: Hi, I am cis and have been tempted to use gender neutral pronouns because I'm a little cantankerous about whether my gender is...
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- Apr 29, 2022
- 7 min
Is it okay that I'm not out as trans?
Q: When I was 12 years old I came out as bisexual and everything went fine. My parents aren't the most progressive people in the world...
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- Apr 12, 2022
- 7 min
Is it actually helpful for cis people to share their pronouns?
Q: Hi! Thank you so much for running this blog, I've learned a lot from your posts. I have a question about the normalization of pronoun...
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